LC first Ice Cream Cone (look how tight she is holding that baby)
I read Kelle Hampton's blog. I like it because she chooses to consistently look for the good in life, and now to my point....
A few post's ago she talked about how her husband had asked if Nella would be smart. Her answer was I think she's brilliant, but they are known to have "a child like mentality" and her husbands response was to say that was so cool. She then received some "nicely" worded e-mails about how that was wrong to say, and that their is even some Ds Men and Women going to college. And I thought, Why did you need to do that? What purpose does it serve to take away her moment where she realized her Husband would embrace the fact their child might want to dress up for Halloween every year until she's 40, maybe Believe in Santa Clause, and the Easter Bunny well belong her peers. In that exchange He let her know He doesn't care if Nella goes to college He will love her anyway. They took that beautiful moment and made her aware of how politically incorrect it was to them for her to say that. They made her feel bad. I want to know why? Some Moms I know have talked about the unfairness that can go on it the Special Needs communities ( a topic for another time). So she needs to hid from the world that some don't go to college. Is she only allowed to recognize the rare few who make it to college. Why can't we just be OK with the exchange between her husband and her? It made me realize I don't want to be an advocate for Leighton like that. I don't want to be the one out there that needs to change everyone's vocabulary, I don't need to announce that she is more then her Trisomy 21. Leighton will do that herself as people get to know her, and that will be more effective then any words I can say will. They will learn to look past the extra skin fold on her eyes, they will look past that tiny tip of her tongue, that pokes out. They will see her smile, and notice the Bluest eyes. I've been thinking about how sometimes when we are so forceful as parents that we are actually pushing people away. If I chew someone out when they use the 'R' word in front of me then I might make them avoid all Ds kids in the future. Believe me I notice every time it's said in My Presence, but I know that my Family is working on it, and it still slips. It was a word we used growing up, and was never associated with Leighty bugs peers in our minds, but now it burns My ears, it's like a siren
LC and Her Grandma my Mom (I LOVE this pic!)
LC first Easter Hunt at Great Grandmas.